January 2012
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Teaching Your Kids Body Euphemisms Is for Assholes →
When my son pointed to his penis (I’ll be honest, it was more of a grope), my parents and sister made pained noises and my mother asked, “Why did you teach him that?” Why? Because a child who knows about his body and isn’t ashamed is safer, dammit. — Nicholaus Noles
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Michelle is a tremendously strong person →
ladybitchez:
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monamade:
Michelle is a tremendously strong person, and has a very strong sense of herself and who she is and where she comes from. But I also think in her eyes you can see a trace of vulnerability that most people don’t know, because when she’s walking through the world she is this tall, beautiful, confident woman. There is a part of her that is vulnerable and...
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Guest-blogging at HyperVocal.com today
Shot-for-Shot Cat Parody of the “Work It” Trailer
Watch This BASE Jumper Cheat Death
YouTube Youth Assailants Face Internet Justice
Crime, extreme sports, and cats! Productive day.
August 2011
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July 2011
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“Rowling wrote Hermione to eschew stereotypes. She doesn’t end up with the hero;...”
– Liz Feuerbach, “The Women of the Harry Potter Universe” (via writingadvice)
Every woman Rowling writes is a badass of the highest order. The entire theatre cheered at everything Molly Weasley and Professor McGonagall did. HBsIC, I tell ya.
(via film-schooled)
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“As a father, I have nothing but contempt for any man whose love is contingent....”
– Hugo Schwyzer responds to the claim that “cuckolding is the worst thing that can happen to men.” Via the Good Men Project
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Hugo Schwyzer: Lust Doesn't Have to Ruin a... →
We assume that male sexual desire is so powerful that it overrides everything else, including friendship. One of our great myths about men is that lust invariably cancels out empathy. Call it the sexual equivalent of being unable to walk and chew gum at the same time: Harry, Sally, and too many of the rest of us were raised to believe that men can’t experience lust and practice non-sexual...
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“As Ted sat, feeling the evolution of the afternoon, he found himself thinking of...”
– Jennifer Egan, A Visit From the Goon Squad
June 2011
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“Guys? Listen up. The world is telling you to turn yourself into a unicorn and...”
– Greta Christina on the Good Men Project/AlterNet
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Hugo Schwyzer: Can Handsome Men Stay Faithful? →
I was married and divorced twice before I was 30, and chronically unfaithful through both marriages. I wouldn’t call myself a sex addict, but like Anthony Weiner, was hungry — even desperate — for validation. The actual sex I had with women was less important than the thrill I got from knowing that someone new was willing to sleep with me. I was chasing affirmation more than orgasm. The thrill...
May 2011
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‘The Best Time of the Day’
crashinglybeautiful:
Cool summer nights. Windows open. Lamps burning. Fruit in the bowl. And your head on my shoulder. These the happiest moments in the day. Next to the early morning hours, of course. And the time just before lunch. And the afternoon, and early evening hours. But I do love these summer nights. Even more, I think, than those other times. The work finished for the day. And no one...
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‘It's a Great Time to Be a Man’ →
goodmenproject:
In last week’s Newsweek cover story, Rick Marin and Tony Dokoupil wrote about how the recession has left middle-aged white men reeling. It’s the “Mancession,” they say. While they’re definitely beating a worn-out drum, this response by Dan Mulhern is spot-on.
Mulhern, a professor at the University of California, Berkeley, and the husband of former Michigan governor Jennifer...
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How My Dad Miraculously Found Me in the 9/11... →
By Nick Lerangis
… Through the window we watched as a small stream of foot traffic began to trickle up the West Side Highway and a flock of media and police helicopters flew straight at us, sending us ducking and cursing as it whooshed over our building. An announcement came over the PA system: the building was being locked down, it was unsafe to go outside, and that we’d all be given free...
April 2011
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Loving the 'boyfriend does my makeup' videos →
goodmenproject:
thatneedstogo:
There is a great meme on YouTube right now featuring videos of straight couples in which the dude is putting on his partner’s make-up, some of which are hilarious in all the expected ways and many of which are really very sweet. They are often intimate and frequently moving; some of the guys talk about watching their partners getting ready in the mirror; some of...
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Brut: The New Masculinity Police →
goodmenproject:
Enjoy badminton? Use a facial product? Buy curtains? Watch out: An ad agency has decided these things are Not Manly. And before you get physically assaulted, you’d better pick up some cologne no one wears.
No kidding. This is the message behind Brut’s new ad campaign, “Some Men Just Need to Be Slapped.” On Brut’s Facebook page, you can choose between 10 different guys to...
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“What we found was that in G-rated movies, for every one female character, there...”
– Geena Davis (via reelaroundthefountain)
(via stfuconservatives)
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“I listened to my classmates tell painful stories of the first time they noticed...”
– Hugo Schwyzer (via the Good Men Project)
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Why I love my blue-collar guy →
We keep hearing breathless reports that women are earning more degrees than men, thus leaving them vulnerable to the terrible possibility of having to “marry down.” I say if this is so, women should embrace their new circumstances.
If I were inclined to listen to conventional wisdom, I would be forced to conclude that I’m doing terribly in the mating market. Apparently, women...
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“Most likely you’ve heard the wage gap has nothing to do with discrimination and...”
– Liz O’Donnell, “Myth-Busting The Gender Wage Gap” (via The Good Men Project)
More from Equal Pay Day last week, because I can’t say it enough. The thing is, if we keep believing this is all womens’ CHOICES, we perpetuate this nasty cycle. Women get paid less, so they stay at home with their kids...
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In defense of dating your coworker →
5. Bathroom sex
Is pretty amazing. And what a way to get through a rough day! See also: conference-room sex, parking-lot sex, darkroom sex, archives sex, warehouse sex, dining-room sex, sales-floor-after-hours sex: You know it’s wrong, but you also know it’s so freaking right. Beats masturbating into a wad of toilet paper with your Dockers dangling around your ankles on your “coffee break,”...
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What it's like to work in Walmart hell →
Thanks to recent teacher layoffs and the miserable job market, I’ve gone from substitute high-school teacher to Walmart associate.
Teaching gave me weekends off for more pleasurable activities like annoying the roommate’s cat or plucking my nipple hair. But this Sunday, I spent eight hours playing Avoid the Customer. It’s a challenging game in which, at the end of the day, I reward myself...
“Yes, Obama duped the young people of this country by not doing every single...”
– Stephen Colbert responding to Republican Tim Pawlenty when he said that Obama has duped young people. (via loveyourchaos)
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Choke and Tase your boyfriend in this charming... →
via Jezebel, originally on the Good Men Project
Oh boy! We knew it was only a matter of time until the trend of man-training books and movies like Men Are Like Dogs and Bring Your Husband to Heel would spread to online games, but we didn’t think it’d happen with this much gusto. The Boyfriend Trainer, with the tagline “No boyfriend is perfect! It’s time you trained him...
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Anthony Weiner: No benefit from ‘living in a... →
Chris Hayes, filling in for Rachel Maddow on Friday night, interviewed New York Rep. Anthony Weiner about middle-class Americans’ unfair tax burden. Weiner talked about how we have to “start putting the burden where it belongs. … We’ve been increasingly shifting the burden to states and cities, so the tax cut has been nonexistent for most middle class people.” Hayes also...
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Newsweek: Poking fun at unemployed middle-class... →
I’ll admit that my gut reaction to the plight of the unemployed middle-class white guy (UMAWG), based on the caricature in my head, is not sympathetic. These are guys who bought into the illusion of corporate security. They’re probably still driving $50,000 cars and voting republican, horrified that one day soon they’ll have to tell their golfing buddies that their son is going to a state...
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Katie Baker: Dance With Your Daughter, But Not For... →
ladyjournos:
Some Christian communities say father-daughter purity balls are about much more than abstinence pledges — they’re an opportunity to talk openly about sex. Is that really the case?
The Good Men Project Magazine || February 17, 2011
“First, it’s so sad that the stereotype of the inept man-child embodied in so...”
– Feministing
Nope, not a huge fan of Ashton and Demi’s anti–child sex slavery PSAs. (via mayaslinklings)
“Paul Ryan, the chairman of the House Budget Committee, sounds upset. And you can...”
– PAUL KRUGMAN, “Who’s Serious Now?” in The New York Times.
Oh snap.
(via inothernews)
Watchthatneedstogo:
Sexism, Transphobia, and Toemageddon: The Daily Show Looks at the Media’s Coverage of a Pink-Nail-Polished Boy
WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU?
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“The greatest nation on earth nearly had to turn off the lights last week. Please...”
– Cecile Richards: Holding Women’s Health Hostage: The Sequel (via standupforwomen)
“Glenn Beck claims only “hookers” depend on Planned Parenthood”
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On his Monday show, Glenn Beck played the tape of Lawrence O’Donnell’s tearing up while he read a letter from a friend of his describing her need for Planned Parenthood’s services.
Halfway through Beck stopped the tape and said “Hookers? Who depends on Planned Parenthood?” He then impersonated...
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“I team-teach a class of high school boys who have been labeled “at-risk.” … One...”
– Suzanne Rosenwasser (read more: “A Wealth of Risk”)